Is my toddler social? Social development in the early years.

I remember a time, not too long ago when I was worried about my daughter’s interaction with other kids.

When she turned 2, she still wasn’t interested in playing with other kids her age. I would bring her to Indoor playgrounds or classes so she could be around other kids, but she was more interested in playing with mommy and daddy. Today, I often see that parents come to Big and Tiny concerned about their kids not interacting with other children.

Although much of the interaction for social development comes naturally, enrolling your child in programs can help them through the process. Plus, you get some time for yourself to do work or unwind while your child plays and learns.

Here are some phases of social development for children 2-4 that will help you set some milestones and measure your children’s social progress, which will be crucial for their development of social intelligence and therefore, their success in life.

First steps towards socialization

Some kids are fast to interact with other kids while others are comfortable in their world, absorbed in their imaginative games. At an early age, it is very common for kids to engage in parallel play; to play next to instead of with each other.

As they grow, their interest in the world around them will increase as well. Although there is still not a lot of interaction, it’s essential to offer your child time with other kids during playtime or enrichment programs.

At Big and Tiny, we offer a unique enrichment preschool prep-program that cultivates autonomy and relationships, supporting kids through the process of social development and introducing them concepts such as sharing and taking turns.

Separation Process

It’s very common to suffer from separation anxiety at this age. The timing of separation anxiety can vary. Some kids might go through it later, between 18 months and 2½ years of age. Some never experience it. And for others, certain life stresses such as having a sibling can trigger feelings of anxiety about being separated from a parent. You mind find this article useful to ease your child’s separation anxiety.

At Big and Tiny, we offer a gradual separation drop-in program that fosters independence while developing language, physical and cognitive skills through music, art, movement and play – a useful and gentle tool to get them ready for preschool.

Model Sharing

Now your toddler can play with one other child. During this period, children are introduced to new concepts such as sharing, taking turns or “mine”. They start to defend their territory and fight over toys. Their desires guide their social behavior.

Kids pay close attention to what parents do, so lead by example and show some sharing at home.

Read here some creative ways to teach sharing to kids.

Extend the group

Eventually, kids will begin to seek out interactions beyond Mom and Dad.

The group will grow larger into three and four, and by the time that children join kindergarten, your child will be ready to play in larger groups.

Look for other kids and make friends

Once your child begins a preschool program, he’ll have the opportunity to make some friends. During this age, you’ll find your child drifting towards certain children and starting to develop friendships based on mutual interests.

Cooperative & Role-Play

Gradually children will learn to cooperate when playing with their friends, take turns and sharing. Playtime turns into more imaginative play and role play, which tends to be more cooperative.

As a result, less aggressive behavior and calmer play sessions are common. However, there will be times when your child is frustrated. Talking about feelings and emotions can be helpful to overcome the situation.

Sense of Identity

Your kid will discover their own personal qualities while also realizing other children have their own unique qualities. These will have great importance for self-esteem.

During this period, kids will go through an identification process. Girls will most likely be interested in dresses and makeup while boys will play with trucks. This behavior reinforces their sense of being male or female.

Understand Feelings & Empathy

At this stage, your kids are sensitive to feelings and actions. Children can understand compromise and be respectful to one another.

During this phase, it’s important to assist them to manage personal feelings, understand others’ feelings and needs, and interact respectfully and acceptably. Kids will also start to show empathy by offering support and love to others.

The truth is that same as with adults; kids are introverts and extroverts as well. It’s important to offer them time to spend with other kids by joining playgroups or enrolling them in enrichment programs that support them through the social development process.

Most important of all, understanding and respecting your child’s needs and rhythm.

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The Best Co-working spaces for parents

By Goop Editor.

Big and Tiny, The Perfect Co-working space for parents

Elle Decor.

Zooco Estudio designs the ideal working environment for flexible professionals with little ones in tow

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In California, coworking spaces are evolving as a sign of the times, striking a delicate balance between the professional and personal realms. So it came as no surprise when Zooco Estudio unveiled Big and Tiny, a work environment welcoming the children of its members in a space to learn and interact with peers without being separated from their parents. A concept that fully grasps the quintessence of smart working, parents at Big and Tiny are able to save time from rushing to and from daycares while cultivating a tight-knit community.

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Imbuing the coworking space for parents with a signature style, Zooco Estudio was inspired by simple geometric forms. Founded in 2008 by Miguel Crespo Picot, Javier Guzmán Benito and Sixto Martín Martínez, the Madrid-based studio flaunts a prestigious portfolio with a wide variety of projects. Many will recognize their work at the Centro de las Artes di Verin, with its monolithic volumes, or the De Vinos y Viandas wine shop enclosing interiors marked by simple and sinuous lines. Their trademark, however, is a keen sensibility to craft a clear concept for each project, responding to the needs and pre-existing spaces of each site.

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In this case, the 196 square meter space for coworking in Santa Monica was organized with a precise primary objective: to construct a welcoming atmosphere with the right mix of formality and familiarity, resembling a home with spaces dedicated to diverse tasks.

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The property was thus divided into three macro-areas: one for play, one for work, and one for meetings. To order the respective spaces, an intricate intertwining of wooden trusses marks the ceiling, where visual continuity is established moving down between geometric references. Arches, triangles, and rectangles become the guiding lines to interpret each space in a free but modular succession inspired by puzzles.

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The relaxing effect of natural wood is felt in the furnishings and lighting from Ferm Living, while high walls and select industrial elements like exposed tubing create a harmonious visual balance. The color palette, meanwhile, draws on typical daycares and calming tones like pink and sky blue, which are further exalted in the play area and the relax area with ceramic tiles.

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At Big and Tiny, adults can work between the furnishings from Normann Copenhagen, make calls in the complete privacy of isolated stalls, or organize meetings. Meanwhile, the little ones are free to play or follow classes at the in-house art studio.

9 Tips To Return To Work After Maternity Leave

Some parents are lucky enough to have long maternity leaves. Major tech companies are starting to offer fantastic maternity policies. Netflix, for instance, offers unlimited maternity leave and pays a full year off while Amazon pays for spouses’ parental leave. However, unfortunately, this is not the norm. Moreover, the only deferral law guaranteeing maternity leave in the U.S is unpaid- and it only applies to some employees.

The law that most women rely on is the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) that offers eligible employees—about 60 percent of the workforce—12 weeks of unpaid leave after childbirth or adoption. Unfortunately, this law doesn’t require the company to pay the employee during maternity leave; it only protects you from losing your job after taking some time off.

Studies find that paid leaves of at least six months have significant positive effects on maternal physical and mental health. With or without a long enough maternity leave, returning to work can be very challenging, especially for new parents.

Even if you have all the logistics and childcare in place, the emotional aspect of separating from your child can be heartbreaking.

Most parents have mixed feelings when returning to work after maternity (or paternity) leave. It is very common to feel sad about leaving your newborn in someone else’s hands. Some parents feel relief or even guilt after maternity leave when returning to work. It can also be very scary to leave your child with someone else. The reality is that most of the times, parents are not ready to return to work.

These are some tips that can help the transition to go back to work.

1. Set up a daily routine and leave everything ready.

Make a detailed list with a daily routine including naps, meals, bath and baby care. Prepare a diaper bag full of necessary items for the day. If you are still breastfeeding, make sure you start storing milk several weeks before your return to work. Here are useful tips from Medela to prepare to return to work.

2. Take care of the logistics.

Either if you’re enrolling your baby in childcare or hiring a nanny to take care of your child, do some research and choose the most convenient and that you trust the most. Recommendations from other moms are always an excellent way to go. Check this article about eight tips to find a child car.

3. Find some working space where you can bring your child.

If the company allows you to work remotely, find a co-working space with childcare close to you – this makes the transition easier and will enable you to work while having your baby close to you. Breaks are the perfect moment to visit your child, especially if you are breastfeeding. Ask your company if they are willing to invest in hourly or daily passes for co-working spaces.

4. Catch up with your team.

Get a head start and find out what’s happening at the office before your first day – This will help reduce the anxiety of returning to work.

5. Make the transition as gradual as possible.

Consider the possibility of starting part time if allowed. If not, take a few days off during the first few weeks or leave early to spend some time with your baby.

6. Manage your time.

Due to the limited time, parents tend to develop an ability to manage their time more efficiently. Even if you work fewer hours, re-structuring your day will make the most of your time. Create a to-do list and focus on your priorities to maximize efficiency.

7. Talk to other Moms and Dads.

There is a whole world of moms out there who have experienced the same feelings you are going through right now. Share your feelings and concerns and welcome their tips and experiences. You can also join a mom group near you.

8. Set your expectations.

Time to be realistic and kind to yourself. Sleep deprivation is a very common symptom during this period so it’s ok to be tired during your working hours and accept the fact that you might not be as productive as you were before.

9. Let your partner be part of the process.

There is no need to go through this on your own. It’s ok to ask your partner to help during this process and team up.

Either you can make it part-time or take a few days off, have a coffee with your boss and find yourself some extra time to spend with your baby. If you’re interested in learning more about our services and pricing come and visit us.

Big and Tiny, A Co-working space with Childcare in California


Big and Tiny co-working space and kindergarten by Zooco Estudio

Dezeen Editor 

A kids’ play area is included in this co-working space in Santa Monica designed by Spanish firm Zooco Estudio, so its members can bring their children to work.

Big and Tiny is among the first co-working facilities in the US to offer onsite childcare. The company was founded by an entrepreneur who is a mother with the aim to empower parents by helping them integrate their personal and professional lives.

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The facility occupies a 2,100-square-foot (195-square-metre) storefront space in the coastal Californian city. Designed with both adults and kids in mind, it is intended to foster “productivity, creativity and community”.

It features a high ceiling with a series of wood-bow trusses, which Zooco Estudio used as an organisational device. Three separate areas were established – a cafe-cum-shop, a kids’ play area and a work zone.

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The trusses also informed the design of plywood partitions and certain pieces of decor.

“Using the original truss ceiling as an example of a universal geometric language, we created a repetitive modular and constructive system that reminds us of a puzzle,” said Zooco Estudio in a project description.

“This adaptable system creates appealing elevations in all the three areas.”

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The front zone contains a coffee bar and a boutique with kid-themed merchandise. Visitors can sit at round wooden tables and pastel-hued chairs.

Hanging on the walls are triangular and semi-circular iron racks. The front area also features tile-clad blocks that are used to form shelving and a display counter.

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“The modular and movable cubes are made out of 10-by-10 ceramic tiles in pink and blue, which is the brand’s colour palette,” the team said.

“This offers the flexibility to configure the space according to different needs.”

Situated behind the cafe and shop is the children’s area, called Tinyland, which aims to offer “purposefully selected sustainable toys to stimulate imaginative play”.

A playground consists of wooden structures such as a ball pit, a slide and a small stage. The room also has a studio space where kids can work on art projects and take classes. Concrete flooring is covered with an eco-foam material.

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The rear zone houses the co-working area for adults. The room has Scandinavian-style office furniture from Normann Copenhagen, along with a soundproof phone booth from Room.

Membership to Big and Tiny, which includes childcare, starts at $305 (£241) per month. The charge for a two-hour drop-in is $49 (£39).

Big and Tiny co-working space and kindergarten by Zooco Estudio

Zooco Estudio – which has offices in Spanish cities Madrid and Santander – was founded by architects Miguel Crespo Picot, Javier Guzmán Benito and Sixto Martín Martínez. Other projects by the studio include a complex of granite-clad buildings that form an art centre in the city of Verín.

Big and Tiny co-working space and kindergarten by Zooco Estudio

Co-working spaces have been on the rise in recent years as working lifestyles become increasingly digital and nomadic.

As the industry becomes more competitive, many are offering tailored experiences. Examples include a women-only workspace and a members’ club geared towards celebrities and famous professionals.

Photography is by Aaron & Jon Photographers.

8 tips on getting some work done during the holidays

Holidays are always the busiest season of the year. Family obligations, travelling, shopping and other activities can be overwhelming and challenging to keep track of.  Getting work done and being productive can be pretty difficult this time of the year. Studies suggest that work is one of the main reasons for holiday stress, centred around the work-family balance during the holidays. 

Recommendations to increase productivity during the holidays: 

1. Take some days off!

Dedicate some time to your personal life and don’t expect to work. Enjoy some quality time with friends and family, do some Christmas errands or just take some time off. Most importantly, don’t feel guilty!

2. Make a to-do list and prioritize.

To do lists are a great tool to keep yourself focused and productive. Since time is limited, keep it short and don’t overcommit. A mile-long list can be discouraging, especially after realizing that you haven’t achieved your expectations.

Make a daily list with the most critical tasks and weekly project goals. If you don’t like old-fashioned pen and paper, try one of the multiple digital apps like Todoist  that help create and manage your lists.

3. Evaluate your progress and results.

Once your working time is over, measure your performance and the progress of the goals and tasks you have set. If the results are not as good as expected, evaluate the work and review your goals and expectations.

4. Try to avoid working from home.

Find a spot that you like where you can be productive and disconnect from hectic family life. This will reduce your distractions. Your favorite coffee shop or a co-working space is a great option. Croissant offers a wide variety of co-working spaces for a monthly membership. For families with school-age children, getting some work done can be even more challenging. If you need childcare or to keep your kids busy, check a coworking space that offers on-site childcare.

5. Find the time where you are most productive.

Early birds find mornings the perfect quiet time to get work done and enjoy the rest of the day. Others prefer night time away from distractions – some parents find that evenings are the perfect time to focus after kids go to bed.

6. Avoid Multitasking.

Work on one project at a time. Studies from Stanford University show that “people who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information do not pay attention, control their memory or switch from one job to another as well as those who prefer to complete one task at a time”.

7. Define your work schedule.

Setting yourself a schedule and working hours creates a feeling of accountability.

8. Respect your working hours.

To make the most of the limited time you have, try to avoid personal calls, texts and social media. Put your phone away and focus on your list of priorities. Ask your friends and family to respect your time. If you’re a parent, plan your schedule ahead and coordinate your working hours with your partner to avoid miscommunication and distractions.

If you need space to work, with childcare, contact us for more information.

Finding time as a parent and composer

Giovanni Piacentini.

I have always been very devoted to my passion of performing and writing music. Like any endeavor, you get what you give and the grander your aspirations and ambition are, the more time you need to dedicate yourself to whatever it is you love.

Being more efficient.

Before we had our first child, I took most of the free time I had for granted. I wasn’t “in a hurry” or with a constant to-do list on the back of my mind. With a few exceptions that demanded a certain level of responsibility, most of my free time was spent doing the things I loved most; traveling and playing the guitar or writing music. I would spend many hours listening to music, playing the guitar, sketching out my own first compositions without a time constraint or really much of a schedule at all.

Becoming more efficient.

Two kids later, I’ve had countless sleepless nights. I now have a sizable to-do list and much more pressure and yet, I’ve never been more efficient. At first, I didn’t realize that this enormous time vortex known as fatherhood would be a blessing in disguise for my career and my time management skills. You become more efficient because you have to, otherwise you wouldn’t have much of a life outside of your parenting duties. You realize that 6 or 7 hours of sleep is usually enough and that being very focused on a task for 45 minutes is way more effective than spending hours on it half heartedly.

If used wisely, this new “time constraint” that comes with being a parent is a great way to discipline yourself. You have much less time so you must lear how to use it more efficiently and that in turn makes for better results.

Efficiency Vs Abundance

You have much less time so you must learn how to use it more efficiently and that in turn makes for better results. I know realize what I could’t possible have understood back then. It’s not “how much” time you have but how you use it that counts. Efficiency of time vs. abundance of it. Try switching your mindset and crush your “to-do” list!

Time-Saving Hacks from #Momlife

Goop editors.

Occasionally motherhood can be summed up in a few words: wake the kids, make breakfast, get everyone dressed, leave, forget something, leave again. The ability to navigate all of that—or better yet, to navigate it all with dignity and grace and a modicum of sanity—is as much science as it is art. We asked a few of the women we know best (the ones we share an office with) for the tools (apps, products, coffee) they rely on to keep it all together—seamlessly.

Kate Wolfson goop's executive editor

KATE WOLFSON

EXECUTIVE EDITOR AND MOM TO SONNY, TWO

POPGRIP Rose Gold Aluminum

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“My son is a big fan of watching videos of himself during meals. Aren’t we all? (Not stellar parenting, but it works.) Having a PopGrip on my phone means that I can stand it up wherever Sonny choses to take his dinner: the counter, his high chair, the dining table. It’s also a godsend when FaceTiming with his East Coast grandparents in the evenings. Coincidentally, it’s when he’s feeling the most energetic (witching hour is real) and running through the house at full speed—tables, chairs, and the dog be damned. The little grip allows me to aim the camera at him and clear the way at the same time.”

ONCE UPON A FARM Wild Rumpus Avocado

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“Jennifer Garner recently launched these awesome organic, non-GMO, gluten-free, BPA-free, refrigerated (a big deal because so many pouches on the market are shelf-stable) baby food pouches. Sonny is almost two, so he’s definitely aged out of baby-food pouches as a meal. They do, however, make for excellent park snacks. He’s a fan of the Wild Rumpus Avocado, Just Right Oats, and Gold-y Mango flavors. And the pouches themselves are recyclable through TerraCycle, so I don’t feel like a total jerk.”

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“The weekends are sacred in our family. It’s when the three of us get quality uninterrupted time together. A few times a month, we take Sonny to this adorable play space where he gets to hang out with other kids (supervised, of course), and we can either run errands (Costco!), get breakfast, or simply chill out in the little café area out front. There’s also a work area in the back if we need to drop in and answer emails during the week while he plays. The doors to the play area—where they have swings, a ball pit, and tons of toys—have a little window parents can peek through without disturbing play time. They also host and plan themed birthday parties right on-site, which is a hack all in and of itself.”

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JORDAN CUNNINGHAM

SENIOR DIRECTOR, BRAND PARTNERSHIPS & SALES, AND MOM TO VIVIENNE, EIGHT MONTHS

DRYBAR Blowout

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“I love going to Drybar. It’s one less thing I need to do in the morning, and it gives me extra time to bang out emails. So much of my job involves meeting with clients, so even though I’m still getting back into the groove, I need to look pulled together. I heard the Drybar founders are coming out with a massage app, Squeeze, soon, too.”

HATCH BABY APP

HATCH BABY APP

“Between sleep deprivation and crazy schedules, this app keeps me sane. You can keep track of feedings, diapers, sleep, weight, and height, but I focus on Vivienne’s feeding schedule. My husband, Chris, and our nanny have access to the app, so they never have to wonder when Vivienne had her last feeding.”

YUMI FOODS

YUMI Yumi, starting at $35 a week

“We introduced Vivienne to solids a little before six months, and the baby-food delivery company Yumi is incredible. Each meal is made with fresh, organic ingredients, and the basic purées are a great way to get her exposed to new tastes. Since her diet consists mostly of breast milk, I just freeze whatever we don’t use right away. For everything else (diapers, household supplies, etc.), I rely heavily on Amazon so I don’t have to make trips to the store.”

TATA HARPER Nourishing Oil CleanserTATA HARPER NOURISHING OIL CLEANSERgoop, $76

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“Once I had Vivienne, I knew I needed to simplify everything in my life, and that included having an arsenal of clean products that I know I love. I don’t have time to shower in the morning, so showering at night has become the norm. It also helps cut down on the time I spend getting ready in the morning, so I have more time with Viv.”

Katie DiMatteo goop's senior director, brand partnerships & marketing

KATIE DIMATTEO

SENIOR DIRECTOR, BRAND PARTNERSHIPS & MARKETING, AND MOM TO STELLA, SIX, AND THEO, FOUR

ROCKETS OF AWESOME ROCKETS OF AWESOME Rockets of Awesome, from $20 per season

“I don’t have to spend time shopping, and the kids get something in the mail. Two birds, one stone. This easy-to-use subscription service makes stocking the kids’ closets a breeze.”

Cozi AppCOZI APP

“My husband pulls more than his share of the weight—if he’s cooking, I’m cleaning. If I’m managing the kids’ schedules, he’s handling the car payments. I use the Cozi app to organize our family to-do and shopping lists. I’ll break out my shopping list by type: grocery store, big box, department stores.”

STARBUCKS APP STARBUCKS APP

“My husband and I commute together, so I’ll place an order for our morning coffee as we’re backing out of the driveway.”

HARRY JOSH PRO DRYER 2000HARRY JOSH PRO DRYER 2000goop, $249

“My secret weapon for getting out the door in the morning even faster. It cuts my drying time in half, allowing for a few extra precious minutes of snoozing when the alarm goes off.”

 

A Magical Thanksgiving

 

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Mini Style Magazine.

Along with some absolutely AMAZING vendors (see list below), our friends at But First Party, put together the most magical, little Thanksgiving party for their little ones. These cutie pies were dressed to the nines in pieces from the adorable Alex + Nova Kids.

Alex + Nova Kids was started by the moms of Alex and Nova. They both fell in love with Korean kids fashion and how whimsical and different it is from what you can typically find in the U.S. It’s simple, playful, and really allows kids to express their individuality. Alex + Nova offers a curated selection of authentic, directly imported Korean kids fashion from bestselling Korean brands. Every Monday, they feature new deals and promotions on select products through their Weekly Drops program. Follow Alex + Nova on social media to stay connected.

Big THANK YOU to But First Party for including Alex + Nova Kids in their super cute Thanksgiving gathering!

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